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The Power of Two: Secrets to a Strong & Loving Marriage

The Power of Two details the communication and conflict-resolution skills that happy couples use to deal with differences.

"Dr. Heitler teaches the skills that make marriage successful. With easy-to-remember guidelines and entertaining examples, she shows us how to create satisfying dialogue, resolve conflicts, and deepen intimacy to insure a joyful and lasting marriage." John Gray, author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

  • Cooperative dialogue
  • Conflict resolution with the "win-win waltz"
  • Shared decision making
  • Safe strategies for anger
  • Recovery after upsets
  • Ways to make a good marriage great


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$19.95 Book ISBN 1-57224-059-8 (paper, 1997)

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The Power of Two Workbook: Communication Skills for a Strong and Loving Marriage

By Susan Heitler, Ph.D. and Abigail Hirsch, M.A.

With this step-by-step workbook you can learn the communication and conflict resolution skills that make married life flow smoothly.  Brief explanations of each skill are followed by fun practice exercises.  Talk Together questions guide you in discussing your new skills with your life partner.

Maximize your relationship’s potential!

  • Speak your mind in a way that invites your partner to hear your concerns with interest, not antagonism.
  • Listen so your conversations flow cooperatively.
  • Resolve your differences with the "win-win waltz."
  • Keep anger constructive.
  • Clean up after distressing upsets with effective apologies that prevent similar upsets in the future.
  • Avoid the Big-3 Mistakes couples make.
  • Learn to nurture love with affectionate intimacy in a warm and happy home.

To learn the most from your Power of Two Workbook

Purchase two workbooks so each of you can fill out all the practice examples.
Work independently, and then share your answers.
For deeper background understanding, read the companion book, The Power of Two:   Secrets to a Strong & Loving Marriage.


Price: $21.95

From Conflict to Resolution

  • Dr. Heitler unites various schools of therapy with a powerful insight: Conflicts, within and between people, lie at the core of emotional distress. Emotional healing depends on movement from conflict to resolution. Therapists, whatever their belief system, serve as guides along the way, and therefore must be expert at conflict resolution. With lively case examples, and immediately useful treatment strategies, this book has proven a favorite for therapists of all levels of experience.
  • Who is this book for?
    Primarily for therapists. Also of interest to lawyers and to the sophisticated general psychology reader, this book has a comprehensive, integrative perspective about therapy.


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$35.00 Two-tape audio set 107 minutes, ISBN 0-393-70151-4 (1992) Ordering

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Working with Couples in Conflict (Free Podcast)

For Therapists:
Recorded live at a training workshop, Dr. Heitler, working with actors, reenacts an actual case.  Skill-coaching techniques plus strategies for rapid access to deeper family of origin issues.

1 hour 47 minutes

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The Win-Win Waltz

The best gift you can give yourself, your spouse, your children and your grandchildren is to learn the skills for a strong and loving marriage.  In this engaging and informative DVD, actors portray participants in a Power of Two weekend workshop. Watch it again and again and you too will learn to replace tension and argument with friendly dialogue.


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Can all conflicts be resolved cooperatively? At Power of Two, we believe the answer to that question is a clear and solid YES. With the skills of the win-win waltz, plus some creative thinking, you can transform all of your his way--her way differences into opportunities for finding gratifying our-way solutions. Learn how to * Talk about sensitive issues and evoke interest, not defensiveness * Listen in a way that consistently enables both of you to feel heard * Dialogue with productive yes-and strategies that keep you feeling like partners * Turn arguments into opportunities for shared creative thinking * Find win-win solutions for every marriage dilemma.

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The Angry Couple: Conflict-Focused Treatment (video)

Dr. Heitler demonstrates her highly original approach for helping couples to cut through impasses and build a more positive relationship.

The video recreates key moments in a six-month therapy with a distressed couple in their early 30’s who seem locked in irreconcilable conflict.

Who is this video for?
Originally designed as a teaching tape for therapists, new and seasoned clinicians alike give it rave reviews. In addition, couples engaged in self-help or curious about couples' therapy also find the tape inspirational and informative.

A copy of the GUIDEBOOK is included.  This GUIDEBOOK  is available only from 

Please note that this version of the video is for VCR.  A dvd version is available for $59 from

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Depression: A Disorder of Power (Free Podcast)

  • Based on understanding that giving up in the face of conflict triggers depression. Dr. Heitler's techniques are designed to dissipate depression's dark cloud.
  • Who is this Podcast for?
    For the general public. Also often used by therapists to accelerate treatment with homework listening for their clients

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From the audiotape Depression: A Disorder of Power Depression produces feelings of powerlessness and helplessness. Depressed feelings are triggered by a situation in which a person gives up on getting something of felt importance. Treating Depression with a Conflict-Focused Visualization. The following visualization, illustrated on the audiotape Depression: A Disorder of Power, can powerfully combat depressed moods. Designed for therapists to use with patients, the visualization may also be used as a self-help technique.

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Conflict Resolution for Couples (Free Podcast)

Collaborative conflict resolution skills insure a healthy relationship. Dr. Heitler, actors and a live audience keep these informative tapes engaging and fun. Content is similar to The Power of Two, in audio format.

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From the audio tape Conflict Resolution for Couples How can couples prevent conflict, resolve conflict, or wipe up after conflict if it emerges? That's our topic today. Let's not start, though, by talking about marriage or conflict. Let's talk about the weather. Let's talk about climate. Would you prefer to live in a climate with thunderstorms, wind, and dark drizzle, or a climate of warm sunshine? I think most people would prefer warm sunshine. There can be a little bit of variety. We don't need unremitting blue skies. Generally, though, the climate within the home is most comfortable for people if it is mostly sunny. We have air conditioning and heating so that in our homes the physical climate stays stable and comfortable. This talk today is to help keep our emotional zone equally comfortable. We will be talking specifically about conflict or disruptions to that comfortable climate zone as it applies to couples. The same principles apply to relationships between parents and children, friends, work relationships. Still, our focus today is on conflict prevention, resolution, and clean up for couples. What do we mean by conflict? Usually when people think of conflict, they think of fighting. Today's discussion goes beyond fighting, because conflict can be expressed within a home in a number of ways. By conflict, I mean times when there are differences -- differences of opinion, differences between what people want, or differences of any sort that create friction. Those differences could be expressed in anxious tension, in somebody feeling depressed, in arguments, fighting, or even violence. Clearly, there are levels of escalation when we are talking about conflict. Conflicts can be discussed in quiet dialogue, get more heated, or can erupt in attempts to injure each other. Hopefully, with the skills we will learn today, escalations that become hurtful can be eliminated. We will learn to utilize conflict as an opportunity for building collaboration, cooperation, warmth, affection and caring -- those elements that give us a sense that our home is a source of comfort and sunshine.

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Anxiety: Friend or Foe (Free Podcast)

  • Many of life's challenges trigger a pounding heart and a worried mind, but is anxiety necessarily a disorder? Dr. Heitler sets forth a refreshing new view: anxiety can be transformed into a positive life force.
    Part I: Use it, then lose it.
    Part II: Actors replay vignettes from therapy sessions.
    Dr. Heitler's gentle techniques convert nervousness, anxieties, panic attacks and agoraphobia to helpful sources of personal guidance.
  • Who are this CD for?
    For the general public. Also often used by therapists to accelerate treatment with homework listening for their clients

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From the audiotape Anxiety: Friend or Foe. Anxiety arises in response to a conflict situation when you feel poised in a situation with no acceptable action options. Anxiety is associated with immobilization in the face of a troubling situation.

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